Blanket Training 101

I have been feeling a touch frazzled as a mom lately so I decided to revisit one of my favorite encouragers in motherhood: Michelle Duggar. Since I don't know Michelle personally I went back and read over some of their first book, 20 and Counting. I was encouraged right away. I also was reminded of an idea I had totally forgotten about- blanket training.

I never did this with my older two and honestly, I never had a real need. When I needed them to sit still for a minute it was pretty easy to get them to cooperate. But, our little Jack marches to the beat of his own drum and I knew blanket training could give me just the bit of sanity I needed. Blanket training is basically teaching your little one to sit still and stay on their blanket for up to about 30 minutes or so.

To get started with blanket time all you need is a blanket (the same one to use everytime that will only be used for blanket time) and a small box or bag of quiet toys and books that will only be used for blanket time. I opted for a bag for easy travel.

Then you get started with the "training". Once or twice a day we sit down. I very excitedly announce that it is blanket time and tell Jack how much fun it is going to be. I have him sit down on the blanket and when he is sitting I give him his toys. Any time he tries to get up or move off the blanket I set him right back down and tell him that it is "blanket time". We started out at 5 minutes at a time once or twice a day and are moving up. I started out sitting next to him but not playing with him since the point of blanket time is for him to entertain himself. Now I am working towards being several feet away working on something and we are working are way up to half an hour. 

When blanket time is over I announce, "all done" and he helps me put his toys back in the bag, we fold up our blanket and put it away. Then we usually do some serious playing to get all of that energy out after sitting still for awhile! 

Have you tried blanket training or something similar? How did it work for you?

I am linking up at Raising Mighty Arrows and The Better Mom

On being a mom...

Being a mom really changes a person... or more than that, Jesus really changes a person. I have wanted to be a mom my entire life. Being a mom and wife has always been my big career goal. I went to college to get my MRS (I went ahead and got a Bachelors of Science while I was there... ) But, my vision of motherhood now compared to my vision of motherhood as a little girl has changed drastically.

When I was young I thought of motherhood in terms of caring for my future children's physical needs. I thought about feeding them and bathing them. I thought about dressing them up in cute, matching outfits. I thought of throwing them birthday parties and decorating their bedrooms. And I carried on with this as my mindset even when I was pregnant with my first child. I was consumed with decorating the nursery, buying clothes, picking out just the right bouncy seat and swing. These were the important things.

But, now that I am a few years into motherhood I feel like I was so shallow back then. I totally didn't have any grasp of what being a mom is actually about. Sure, I do have to meet the physical needs of my children. And this is certainly the most time consuming part of my "job". And let's be honest, putting a flowery headband on a little girl or a sweet sweater vest on your little guy is one of the perks of the job.

But, I find that the most important part of my job and the most mentally consuming part of my job is caring for the hearts and minds. Encouraging, teaching, talking with, listening, training and disciplining... the inside stuff. That is what being a mom is about down at the core. Giving love and affirmation to our children, giving them a vision for eternity- what else could matter more?

Anyone can care for our children's needs. And a lot of people do it well. I am not the only one that can dress my child or feed them breakfast. And, in reality, I am not the only one that can teach them about God or touch their hearts in some way. But, since I am their mom, I do know them better than anyone else. And I believe as my children's mom God has given me a heart for my children that no one else has. I can't imagine any one else loving my children more than I do, having the same vision for their lives, caring for their hearts quite like I do (except for Jesus of course).

I am not saying it is wrong to decorate our kiddos rooms or put them in cute outfits (I like to do these things to). But, those things can't be the priority. Because, to put it plainly, if our children had adorable bedrooms, perfect outfits, and the most outrageous birthday parties in the neighborhood but we did not take the time everyday to speak to their hearts and pour into their souls that I believe we have failed. Being a mother is not about helping our children keep up with the Jones's... it is about touching their hearts for eternity.

I want to encourage all of us as moms to take a step back and take a hard look at where we are focusing our energy. Have we prayed with our children today? Have we prayed for them? Have we read them a good book and asked what they thought about it? Have we snuggled and tickled and laughed and chased? Today, let's do the job that only we as their moms can do for them. I don't think we will regret it.

Review: Frumps to Pumps

I recently had the opportunity to review Sarah Mae's brand new e-book, "Frumps to Pumps: Your one-month motivational to getting dressed and staying that way!" I was mildly obsessed with her earlier e-book, "31 Days to Clean- Having a Martha House the Mary Way". I gleaned so much wisdom from that book I couldn't wait to get my hands on this one.

Sarah Mae was one of the first Christian mommy bloggers I started reading a few years ago and I have always loved her honest, encouraging, and God-glorifying writing. (And if you do too she is currently co-writing a book with THE Sally Clarkson!)

When I saw what this book was going to be about I immediately knew I would benefit from it. I am one of those people who is much more productive when I am dressed with make-up on, and yet most days I find myself in sweats well past noon... or past dinnertime... Yep.

I read through this book and loved Sarah Mae's practical and encouraging tips. I love that she calls this book a motivational (part devotional part motivation) because that is exactly what it is. Practical wisdom encouraging women to be the best wives, mommies, and women of God that we can be.

I would have to say my favorite thing about this book was that Sarah Mae is very clear that this should not be a legalistic endeavor and we cannot win God's favor buy wearing a cute top rather than our ratty bath robe. But, she encourages getting dressed in order to serve God and our families well and I love that. 

You can get your copy of Frumps to Pumps right here! It is just $4.99 and I think it will be money well spent.

*I received my copy for free in exchange for a review. However, the opinions expressed here are 100% mine.

Linked up at Raising Homemakers and Women Living Well.

My new word

I am at a new season in life where God is teaching me to use a new word. It is a word that I really don't like to say and I avoid it at all costs. It is "no". Specifically, it is saying "no" to a lot of really fun things. 

I am a social butterfly by nature. I love to be with people. I love having friends and getting together. I love community. But, at this time in my life with three young kiddos, my husband's work schedule, church stuff, and homeschooling on the horizon I just don't have the free time I used to have. I need to be at home most days in order for things to run smoothly in our home and in order to get done everything I need to get done. 

It has been REALLY hard for me to say "no" lately. The hardest one just today was having to say "no" to being in a morning Bible study with some ladies at church. It is a group of really neat ladies! And come on, it is a Bible study! Surely God approves of studying the Bible! And He does! But, I just knew He was saying "no" to this one... at least right now. I knew if I said yes I would become too busy and I would be inconsistent in my attendance and inconsistent in getting things done at home. But, man, it was so hard to say "no" to such a great opportunity!

I also had to say "no" to getting together with some girls and an amazing older woman who is willing to help mentor us in homeschooling. It was a great opportunity. But, I know I can't do it all.

But, I also realize that as hard as it is to say "no". And if you know me you know that it is really, really hard... Everytime I say "no" I also get to say "yes". "Yes" to these sweet little faces who will only be little for a very short time...

I am linking up at The Better Mom, These 5 of Mine, Plus Two, The Modest Mom, Women Living Well and The Straightened Path.

InstaFriday {week 3}

Yay!  Time again for Instagram pics! I love recapping my week with these pics.

Last Saturday we had friends over for dinner. I asked Max to wipe down the dining room table. He chose his own method of doing so...

 I was rocking my apron as I was making dinner and feeling quite Suzy Homemaker. Maybe if I wore an apron all the time I would be more productive?

 It is a little hard to tell but Nick and I were cracking up about Max's hands. They are always covered in marker because Max colors pictures all day long.

 I love this picture because it is just SO Sophie! She is always in costume and being silly. I just love her so much.

 Jack got Scout's dog bed out of his kennel and then proceeded to terrorize our poor pup by laying in his bed.

 I decided to read the chapter of Proverbs that corresponds with the day of the month in addition to my Bible in a year plan this month. I love the book of Proverbs so much.

Some good friends of ours introduced us to this game and now I am mildly addicted. Nick ran to the store the other day and I asked him to pick up a deck of these cards while he was there. I shouldn't brag but I totally won last night...

Happy Weekend!

Random Thursday

Edit: This post has been updated with an additional link thanks to a comment!

Since yesterday's post was titled Random Wednesday and I have 3 or 4 things to post today I thought it was only fitting that today's post be titled, Random Thursday. So, here we go...

So by now most of you have probably seen this video circulating around Facebook

I watched it and was very moved. I absolutely hate that this is going on. However, after doing my own research I have decided that while I would love to do something I personally do not feel that this organization is the best use of my money. I checked them out on Charity Navigator and then found a few articles that were posted by people I respect. I encourage you to read these in particular to make your own decision. (In all fairness here is the response to these articles for you to read: http://allafrica.com/stories/201203080906.html) What stood out most to me was where the money is actually going.... to the Ugandan government which has proven itself corrupt. I just encourage everyone to do their research before sending money to any organization to make sure it is one that is actually improving people's situations instead of intensifying them. I think as Christians we have a responsibility to give to those who are poor and cannot help themselves. These children absolutely qualify as the least of these and deserve our attention. We sponsor two children through Compassion International and I love the work that they are doing within the communities to help children. I also love World Vision and Amazima.

On a totally unrelated note... the pot roast I made last night was amazing. It was not the dry, hard to swallow pot roast I am used to. I served it over mashed potatoes with lots of the juice. Yum-o! Here is the recipe. And a picture-

Looking at that picture kind of makes me want to run to the fridge and start devouring the leftovers. But, since it is not even 8:30 in the morning yet I guess I can hold off for a little bit longer.

And last but not least, how cute is my dog?

Random Wednesday Post

Happy Wednesday! Man, here in the midwest it has been so windy lately. I am getting sick of being almost blown away every time I step outside! It is like a tease to have such warm weather that can't be enjoyed!

Our Wednesdays are usually dedicated to me getting together with the girls in our small group in the morning for prayer and then small group in the evening. Both were cancelled tonight due to lots of illness so our day has been wide open. It has been nice to get a chance to do some much needed catching up on some things. The kiddos and I went to the grocery store this morning. I am trying a new pot roast recipe for dinner. I thought I would give the Pioneer Woman's a try. I want to love pot roast but most of the time when I have them they are so dry. Hopefully this recipe will deliver. I will let you know.

In other news, did anyone else happen to catch Pastor Mark and Grace Driscoll on the View today? You can see a clip here. I thought they did great! The ladies gave them a hard time... and you know how Whoopie and Joy get when someone disagrees with their beliefs... But, I think Mark and Grace spoke truth and were awesome.

I also really enjoyed this article over at The Better Mom today called "Dressing to Attract". I think they did a great job of getting to the heart of modesty. Such a great reminder.

Well, there is laundry to fold! Have a great day!